Guide to Good, Better, Best

Beat perfectionism by following the Good, Better, Best Framework!

We’ve all been there before. You set a goal of working out 5 days a week, but you only workout 3 days. Or you say you want to lose 10 pounds, but you only lose 7. Or maybe your goal was to bring lunch to work every day this week, but you missed a day.

Does that mean if you worked out 3 days, or lost 7 pounds, or brought lunch to work 4 out of 5 days that you’re a failure? 

Hell no!!

So how do we stop being so hard on ourselves?

Next time you set a goal, set three goals instead: A good, better, and best goal.

Think of it as, “first base, second base, home run” or “must see, would like to see, would love to see.” 

This practice contains a few built-in success principles:

  1. Be specific
  2. Be flexible
  3. Be compassionate

Be Specific

For goals, we want to make sure our goals are super clear and measurable. So saying something like, “I’d like to lose weight” is great, but getting more specific is even better. “I will lose 10 pounds in 30 days.” When you’re on your goals, you can then measure your progress against those goals day after day and week after week.

Be Flexible

Life happens. Understanding that before you set out to achieve your goal is going to set you up for reality when things inevitably get in the way. So be unreasonable when you set goals, but be realistic too. Can I lose 15 pounds in a month? Probably! Would I be stoked if I lost 5 pounds? Absolutely!

Be Compassionate

This is the secret sauce to overcoming the need to be “ALL or NOTHING” when it comes to achieving our goals. Say your best goal is to bring your lunch to work every day this week, but one morning you wake up late and rush out the door and forget your lunch at home, so you order lunch at work. Does that mean you should drive your car off the bridge on your way home? NO! Just fix it and get back on the horse the next meal or the next day.

When we set Good, Better, and Best Goals, we set ourselves up to win at ALL levels!

It’s All About Me

Allowing yourself to enjoy yourself

Let’s talk about “ME” and by me I mean let’s talk about YOU prioritizing “Me Time”. As we get older and into adulthood our schedules tend to be overwhelmed with responsibilities. Work, bills, kids, cleaning, cooking, balance out your schedule with your partner’s schedule, ect. It can get hectic and crazy, and over time it’s just exhausting. You see as adults we tend to forget a major component of life and that one small but impactful component is… PLAY!

Yes, that right play. When was the last time you went out and did something just for the simple joy of doing it? I bet it’s been awhile. I know from personal experience. I would wake-up, go to work, get home, and sit down and do more work. I even noticed that most of my conversation revolved around work or tasks that needed to be done. Well, this may come as a surprise to you, but life does not revolve around work!

Take a deep breath in and out, write it down “Life does not revolve around work”, say it out loud, “ Life does not revolve around work”, take another deep breath in and slowly exhale. How do you feel? How does it feel to verbally give yourself permission to go play? Write those feelings down, bask in it, enjoy it.

Now, that we have given ourselves permission to GO PLAY, let’s look at how we can accomplish this more.

Step 1: Use a calendar, journal, planner or app to schedule out your day. You can plan out a whole month, week, or even just 1 day at a time. Whatever helps to get the habit rolling. 

Step 2: Before anything else schedule “Me Time” on your calendar. Do this first! Whether it’s getting your nails done, going to the gym, reading, or trying out that new dance class you’ve been wanting to take, put it in the calendar before all else. Lock it in, set reminders, go do it. 

Step 3: After you scheduled your “Me Time” fill in the rest of your calendar. Schedule work hours, appointments, obligations. After you have it all filled out, look where the rest of your “free time” is? Do you have any? If so, schedule more play time.

Here is an example: